To Taking More Chances

I’ve been thinking a lot recently about taking chances and risks and why I don’t take a lot of them.

I would say I’m a careful person. I have a fear of the unknown and I don’t like making mistakes. I like to think about everything before I act on it and I only take very calculated risks. I’m scared of getting hurt. I think in some ways, it has made me a more closed off person and perhaps I’ve missed out on opportunities. Who knows…I may have missed out on a new position, new person or new experience.

When I was super young, a tv station came to interview at the studio where I was taking art lessons. My art teacher asked me if I wanted to be interviewed but I was too scared to take the risk. He gave it to someone else instead.

In freshman year, I started talking to this really nice guy who we’ll call…Bob. We met at a party where a friend of mine introduced us. We started talking a lot after that and he was everything that I thought I wanted at the time. It was when things started becoming more real that I got scared. I wanted to be sure that he was THE ONE. I wanted to be sure that he was worth it. Frankly, in all honesty, Bob probably wasn’t …THE ONE but it’s the fact that I didn’t even give him a chance. I backed out before it even started because I was scared of making a mistake. That’s not how we should live in that constant bubble of fear, letting our past dictate how we do things in the present. Everyone is different and it’s important to take the chance.

Both these examples are very small I know but it’s a buildup of these small these occurrences that have made me realize that I need to stop being scared.

I started to wander out of my comfort zone this past summer after realizing that I might have been restricting myself from doing things I wanted to do. It was hard I won’t lie. I felt like I was going against everything I’ve always believed in.

But I realized something. I’m only going to be in my 20s once in my life and if I don’t take my risks now, when am I going to do it? This is the time to say yes to everything, without caring about the consequences. This is the time to be spontaneous. This is the time to take that road trip for one day just for the hell of it. This is the time to book a bus ticket and leave. This is the time to stop overthinking everything and just go with the flow. I’ve come to realize that overthinking things actually stops me from being happy.

There is a time and place for everything and right now isn’t the time for me to sit at home worrying about what’s going to happen one year from now or whether or not I need to get another pillow for my couch because frankly, it doesn’t matter. What matters are the experiences.

I stopped making new years resolutions about two years ago when I realized they were kind of useless. However, I have one for 2018.

Be spontaneous and take more chances.

xoxo,

Sindy Spencer

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  1. prettyslickchick
    January 22, 2018 / 6:49 pm

    I can so relate to everything you are saying! The thought of doing something new or different would always scare me. It had a lot to do with self confidence for me. However, now that I am nearing the end of my 20’s and now that there’s so much women empowerment going around I’ve been getting so much better at pushing the fear out of my mind. Or at least not letting it stop me from pursuing things I really want.

    Thanks so much for doing this post!

    -Kim
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    • sindy spencer
      January 24, 2018 / 2:51 pm

      Hi Kim thank you so much for this comment!!! I think self confidence was a factor for me too especially through high school and freshman year of college but it takes time!!!! All the best!

      xoxo

  2. January 22, 2018 / 7:39 pm

    Loved your post Sindy! I can totally relate. It’s refreshing to read your post and know that I am not alone in feeling this way sometimes as well. ‘What matters are the experiences’ is so true ! Cheers to new beginnings!

    • sindy spencer
      January 24, 2018 / 2:52 pm

      I’m so happy you loved it Melanie! I felt really out of my comfort zone writing this post but I think the whole point of this platform is to share my thoughts! I’m glad I’m not alone!

  3. January 23, 2018 / 1:42 am

    I also think resolutions are pointless; that said, I 100% agree with everything you said. WE have no idea how long we will live. I try to live every day to the fullest too. It is hard to remember to do that with bills and other things, but now is all we have. <3
    Great post.

    • sindy spencer
      January 24, 2018 / 2:53 pm

      Yes!!! I never go through with any of my resolutions! I also find it pointless to only make them during the new year, they can be something we make throughout the year too!

    • sindy spencer
      January 24, 2018 / 2:54 pm

      I completly agree Linda!!!! Thank you so much for commenting!!! <3

  4. January 25, 2018 / 5:00 pm

    Awe I love this post, it’s definitely important to take more chances in life! The way I look at it is that you should give more yes’s than no’s and always be open to new things!

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    • sindy spencer
      January 26, 2018 / 1:16 am

      That’s so true Marah!!!! Definitely should say more yes’s!! xoxo

  5. January 25, 2018 / 5:01 pm

    I love how honest this is! It can be so hard taking risks and I think you’re brave to try harder to!

    • sindy spencer
      January 29, 2018 / 3:11 am

      Thank you so much Briana!!! I was scared to write such a honest piece that puts me in a more vulnerable situation but I’m glad you enjoyed it!

  6. January 25, 2018 / 5:13 pm

    It’s hard putting yourself out there and/or letting yourself become vulnerable to new things, people, places, etc. I’ve struggled with being open to [new] so I can definitely relate to you! However, I have found that the best experiences and opportunities happen when you let go and let “life happen” to you …if that makes sense. Great post, I really enjoyed it! 🙂

    • sindy spencer
      January 29, 2018 / 3:10 am

      Thank you so much for this reply!! I think it’s also hard to remember that other people are going through the same thing! It’s the rejection of failure that I think I’m always scared of but I shouldn’t be! Xoxo

  7. February 15, 2018 / 5:42 pm

    I totally feel you on that too Sindy! It almost feels like I’m afraid to mess up or fail what I think is a perfect opportunity in front of me. I worried too much as well to the point that I just give up on the idea altogether.

    I think we just need to loosen up and not thing so much. Like what Nike said, just do it lol!

    • sindy spencer
      February 15, 2018 / 10:46 pm

      I agree with you so much!! Sometimes it feels like if I’m gonna fail anyways, why even bother trying because I’m just setting myself up for failure but in reality it’s not true at all!

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